Assertiveness in Communication
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The importance of collaboration is highly recognized in the workplace, but often, we find ourselves stuck being too passive or too dominating to truly collaborate. That's where understanding the assertiveness spectrum comes in handy. I've created a free graphic that breaks down the spectrum into five steps: passive, indifferent, assertive, aggressive, and dominating. It's a visual reminder of where we want to aim for: assertiveness. But I know it's not always easy, which is why I've compiled resources to help. You'll find tips and techniques to improve your assertiveness skills, so you can communicate confidently and effectively in the workplace.
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The Assertiveness Spectrum
A range of approaches that individuals may adopt in their communication, with assertiveness as the balanced and desired midpoint.
Being assertive is important because it allows individuals to express their thoughts, opinions, and ideas with confidence, while also respecting others' perspectives. It helps establish clear boundaries, facilitates effective decision-making, and promotes healthy relationships based on mutual respect and understanding.
Straying too far towards the passive end of the spectrum may result in individuals being overlooked, their ideas not being heard, and their needs not being met. It can also lead to a lack of assertiveness in advocating for oneself and may be perceived as lacking confidence or competence.
On the other hand, leaning towards the aggressive or dominating end of the spectrum can create a hostile or intimidating environment, damage relationships, and hinder effective collaboration. It may result in others feeling disrespected or ignored, leading to resistance or conflict.
Finding the right balance of assertiveness in communication allows individuals to express their thoughts and opinions while respecting others, leading to constructive and collaborative interactions that foster positive relationships and outcomes in both personal and professional settings.
Passive: This represents a communication style that is passive, lacking in assertiveness, and often avoids expressing oneself. Individuals on this end of the spectrum may struggle with low confidence in communication and may not assert their opinions or needs clearly.
Indifferent: This represents a communication style that is disinterested or apathetic, lacking in engagement or enthusiasm. Individuals may fail to convey emotions or opinions clearly, resulting in a lack of meaningful communication.
Assertive: This is the balanced midpoint on the spectrum, representing a confident communication style that expresses opinions clearly while also respecting others' opinions. It involves taking charge without dominating, and demonstrating self-assurance and respect in communication.
Aggressive: This step involves forceful language and tone, overbearing behavior, and little regard for others' opinions. It can be confrontational and may involve overpowering others in communication, leading to strained relationships.
Dominating: This represents a communication style that is authoritative, dictatorial, and suppressive of others' opinions and ideas. It involves high levels of control and authority, which may hinder collaboration and create a negative communication environment.
Assertiveness looks different depending on context.
Are you at work or out in the world?
Outside of work, school, or the religious community, there is a lot more flexibility to the hierarchies that establish power dynamics between people. Two strangers can be on the exact same level to each other, which is why it is often a sign of an aggressive communication style for individuals to assert themselves into spaces and conversations where they were not explicitly invited.
In contrast, being assertive in the workplace often involves voicing your opinion and concerns, despite lacking authority or power.